tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post4289455586281194493..comments2023-09-06T05:00:24.861-05:00Comments on Literally Blindsided: Blinded by the LightSharihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-53660424070864396622007-12-28T13:11:00.000-06:002007-12-28T13:11:00.000-06:00Shari, I am so glad you found my blog and led me t...Shari, I am so glad you found my blog and led me to yours! My 7 year old has severe photophobia and uses tinted glasses indoors at times. I so understand your struggle and the learning to speak up. This is probably the hardest to teach my children as I was never one to speak up while growing up; just preferred not to make waves. Yet I find it easier to speak up for them, which does teach them. <Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-9968020273078459022007-12-06T10:01:00.000-06:002007-12-06T10:01:00.000-06:00Hey Shari! I am trying to make my rounds through m...Hey Shari! I am trying to make my rounds through my blog roll since it has been a while. <BR/><BR/>You take care!Breazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674200910146493711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-43839354108762906552007-12-03T10:37:00.000-06:002007-12-03T10:37:00.000-06:00I have tremendous trouble adjusting to dimness aft...I have tremendous trouble adjusting to dimness after the glare of sunlight too. And would you believe it , I still have trouble speaking out - worrying about what the other person will think . Talk about being a wimp ..sigh.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157665564024320442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-3601199205663867382007-11-27T12:28:00.000-06:002007-11-27T12:28:00.000-06:00Hillgrandmom-Good for you. Totally understand the ...Hillgrandmom-Good for you. Totally understand the "good girl" thing. My dad was a real male chauvinist and so I got that "gender role" thing going on, too. Hubby's cooking more and making his own lunches now, so I'm getting there. ;)<BR/><BR/>Sherry-I worry too much about what people think and feel so self-conscious. Sometimes I can tell which people are more willing to accomommodate me than Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-10809921582209252302007-11-27T12:24:00.000-06:002007-11-27T12:24:00.000-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-2715136890371805852007-11-27T11:26:00.000-06:002007-11-27T11:26:00.000-06:00Shari, it saddens me that you would feel okay abou...Shari, it saddens me that you would feel okay about depriving yourself of being as fully part of any gathering, or being out with family/friends...<BR/><BR/>There is certainly nothing wrong with asking for what you need. You aren't asking for special treatment or just because you want something for yourself. And it isn't even being rude. It's just asking, in a nice way if you could have this Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271529958269038071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-79569005234758027812007-11-27T08:56:00.000-06:002007-11-27T08:56:00.000-06:00I also used to find it difficult to speak up, more...I also used to find it difficult to speak up, more cos when I was small I always wanted to be the 'good girl'. But now I've kind of gotten over that.hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-63725678407933430442007-11-26T15:05:00.000-06:002007-11-26T15:05:00.000-06:00G-Thanks for understanding. I do try to speak out ...G-Thanks for understanding. I do try to speak out sometimes. Key word here: sometimes. :) Like I said, I am getting there. It's not always easy. Talk about the "inner child"-we carry so much with us.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-6830737936879164622007-11-26T10:37:00.000-06:002007-11-26T10:37:00.000-06:00Shari, I thought about this and wanted to acknowle...Shari, I thought about this and wanted to acknowledge that part, which I totally glazed over. I am the 7th of 10 children so I know a bit about what you speak. It's a hard thing for us to often "ask" for things, but I've learned that my quietly being offended about something was often a product of my not letting the other person know. Conditioning is tough, I know. I so know what you mean. Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-14407475235838838012007-11-25T22:09:00.000-06:002007-11-25T22:09:00.000-06:00Molly-I know. I am such a doormat most of the time...Molly-I know. I am such a doormat most of the time. When I ate out with my FIL and his girlfriend, they were okay with it-that I wanted my back to the window. The view from the window though, was beautiful (a river). ;) I think that this group was part of a DB group in CT or MA. They had some kind of convention. <BR/><BR/>G-Thanks. I get intimidated easily. It has something to do with being the Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-29480345165025085382007-11-25T20:48:00.000-06:002007-11-25T20:48:00.000-06:00Shari, thanks for your visits during this tough ti...Shari, thanks for your visits during this tough time. Just wanted to drop in and say that and hello.<BR/><BR/>I so appreciate reading your posts as they are rich in perspective. On asking people to move - I am sure that you would never appear rude and your companions would only be too happy to comply. Don't be afraid to ask - people want to be able to help. <BR/><BR/>Best to you.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075495407192340894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-51251585645722145442007-11-25T16:03:00.000-06:002007-11-25T16:03:00.000-06:00Responding to your comments Shari !!!! The five o...Responding to your comments Shari !!!! The five of us, it was 2 guys. 3 of us women in the kitchen. Still difficult for me. I would've love to met the group that reserved a room in a well lit restaurant. That is cool...... 1995, had an Usher gal & hubby from GA, come to Tampa for a FFB meeting. We met for dinner. They arrived earlier, to pick a table with good light. Later she realized of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-82911974097999643542007-11-24T08:08:00.000-06:002007-11-24T08:08:00.000-06:00A kitchen with too many people is dangerous for us...A kitchen with too many people is dangerous for us with Usher. That I understand, too. :) Have to start making noises like trucks do when they go backwards. LOL. An accident waiting to happen. I remember reading about a group of Usher people getting together in a restuarant. They had rented a room at a restuarant and requested that the blinds be down and the lights be brighter. <BR/><BR/>Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743533586969447238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-80182565367606965842007-11-24T02:00:00.000-06:002007-11-24T02:00:00.000-06:00I also suffer from photophobia. But its somewhat b...I also suffer from photophobia. But its somewhat better than before.<BR/>i wear dark glasses in the sun.anything with a glare I can 't stand...I have to dull the TV and computer screen.Amritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04887884977787790642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33891938.post-58429874284693922582007-11-24T01:07:00.000-06:002007-11-24T01:07:00.000-06:00Oh Shari, Would you believe I had trouble this Tha...Oh Shari, Would you believe I had trouble this Thanksgiving. Five of us at my friends' house. Every room had different levels of light. I was walking slowly, well very carefully every where. I did not want to be in the way. We girls were in the kitchen. I did not help out. Five people was enough.... Yeah need to be gutsy and even switch seats to avoid staring at the light. Really people do Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com